kids need options!

I have learn about giving kids options when i saw a very good baby development video in UK...it teaches us how to deal with kids and one of it is giving our kids options for them to choose...

i've been using this method to my kids, this way my kids being confidence, less frustrated with routine and happier!

Options in their favorite

option to choose they favorite things

Normally...if we are having lunch together...i will ask my baby ( from 9 months) which drink that they want by holding 2 glasses, one with plain water and one with juice...they will try to grab any of those and that will be their drink :-) same goes to toy...2 toys at a time...eventually...when my kids grow bigger...they can accept options when they need to...like...they want sweets which they cant have maybe it's not halal and they still cannot understand why and what is non halal sweets...i will give them options and it's easy for them to accept it...as they are use to it ;-)

Option in becoming creative 

options to learn something new

Flowers are red...leaf have to be green!...oops!

In term of learning...they actually open to options...from shapes, color size or number...they becoming more confident in venturing into something new because they have the option to do so...dont limit our child base on what we want...kids, even babies have their own feeling and preference... let us be more understanding and flexibles towards our gems okay!

mommy...my flowers are rainbow color with bright orange leaf...it's autumn and i feel happy!...

Option in playing

kids...just love to jump, kicks and throw...they choose to ump on the bed or sofas...they kicks the toys or sometime throw it..we as parent..we know that they not suppose to jump on the sofa or bad...toys are not to be kicks or thrown to other kids...and we will quickly ask them to stop and sometime they just not listen to us...why?

because we dont give them option to what they are doing...we ask them not to jump on the sofa...but we forgot that they like to jump...they need options here...end result from not having an options is continue what they are doing!

we should give them options like...if you go and play the hop scotch..you can jump play with your friend or maybe you want to play other things that is less jumping but more throwing and kicking like footballs...and you will see how the kids respond to it and be happy!




Option in giving opinions

we as a parent...we see our kids as someone small and less important in giving opinion... sometimes we ignore our kids ideas...this will make our kids feel less important and make them less confident and poor self-esteem...

option in giving opinions...

me and my husband will include our children when we are planning for holidays...we will give them option to choose the place and activities. when they give opinions  we actually jot it down and ask them the reason for that decisions.. they will be more then happy to tell us and we are more then happy to take the opinions in!

we need to stop and listen

we need to stop and listen...understand what they are trying to say...and you will be surprise to see how this small act will make our kids more understanding and more flexible towards our ideas as they develop the good trust and understanding with us.. ;-)

constructive play with kids

There are lots of constructive playing set in the market like the most common lego or mega block..

But today i want to talk about k'nex...

my kids actually play with different level of lego and mega block set from the biggest chunk to the smallest..but to some point i really like my kids to play with other type of constructive game..

i bought stickle bricks, then marble runner and now k'nex.

this amazing product is very versatile.. you can build from 2D to 3D things unlike building block..they are limited to 3D things:-)

k'nex is easy to assembles and it came with various part and umlimited potential ideas for the lil ones!..

ps: not suitable for kids under 3.. alot of small part!

it's always a good buy to spent some money on constructive playing set..it really help you to calm an active todds for hours!

Simple Activity to boost spelling skills in children

Did i ever mention that my lil son..Haris can do his spelling very well?..even better then me?..being his ''teacher'' since he was 3 years old gave me brilliant opportunity to use all sort of methods to make him learning in fun and interesting ways!

After Haris is able to read..i was thinking to make him able to spell...i do some research in the net...alot of them says that it need to be practice...i thought to myself..he is just a small kid!..i dont want to make him feel stress with all the writing and spelling  practice. He need to learn without any stress or it will be superb if he dont even know he is learning it!

Then i come across thing similar to THIS

WORD SEARCH!...

i just give haris this...and now..its aisyah favorite too! this simple game works really well when you want your children to practice their spelling in fun stress free way!

if you can print out or buy the simple words search books, you can just pop it in the car!...ring it out when ever you are eating out with the kids...have with you a set of color pencil and this will make them less restless waiting for their food!

what else?

ok...i did bought this for my kids!

SCRABBLES

you can get this toy r us...this is a brilliant product.. they have all this level of difficulties...from youngster to adult!...

i still remember how haris was so in love with this...developing his spelling skills...oh how amazing to see you child learning in such fn and enjoyable ways!

since Aisyah already reading well, i'm planning to take out haris old scrabble set and let her explore!...

i notice that my child like puzzle!

Puzzle actually help your child hand and eye coordination and to top up to the advantages...you can try to find puzzles like this!

SPELLING OR WORD JIGSAW PUZZLE

you can get this from any big toy store!


for beginners ..you can actually help to re-group the puzzle for each words, then later, try to mix 2 words together and so on...this help the children not to feel frustrated with the first experience in trying to solve the puzzle!...remember this is a fun learning!

pict are all from google ;-)

hope this help..

have a go moms!...make your children learning fun and easy!

rewards

Normally, i will give the kids stickers and stick it on their shirt...but this time...i think of other ways to put theirs rewards stickers...

for me..this way is much more better...they can actually keep their stickers and they will be very happy reading all the different and personalize sticker on the wall ;-)

the collected rewards for the past 6 days!

the date when i started this chart

Haris!

Aisyah!

lil bit of extra friends from aisyah...her rabbit n snail!

Rewards your child for their effort...no metter how small it is ;-)

have a go mom!.

ps: you will be surprise to see how easy to ask your child behave and being good to their siblings! not to forget...they will be very happy helping you out too!

this help!

I really enjoy using this math smart grove...it help my lil Aisyah to write and understand her number very well...this is the first thing i use to teach aisyah numbers and how to write it!

 this is the thing!

 aisyah will use her finger to follow the grove and then try to copy the shape on the paper...while tracing the grove..i will make funny noise like...swooosh!...she love it!

 count the pictures and suprise hidden for those tiny fingers to explore!

 to help her remember the sequence...

 this help her undertand the adding process!

i told you...its a bargain!...

I bought this in MPH for 20% discount and it's one of the best buy so far!

Math is Fun...have a go mom!

draw me...make me happy

this is one fun activity...you can try this if you got more then one child...

ask each of them draw the person sitting infront them...

try to copy as close as possible...

when its finish...ask them to swap...

and you can see how happy the partner is...

dont forget to put the picture on the wall of fame!...

have a go mom!

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arabic

found this nice web to learn arabic esp for kids..

tj arabic

have a go!

idea for weekend activity

i've make this activity yesterday...as im not a working mom...i can do any activity at anytime or day...but this particular activity can be done for those working mom!..

Go with the map!

ok...first you need to have 

• paper
• pancil or pen
• ideas

ask your child to draw a map of your neighborhood...place of where he familiar with.... if you live in a flat...ask the kids to draw the way to the lift...then to the park near by... or any of his fav place with in the walking distance ( if you have small kids)...or by car if your child a bit bigger.... 

ask them to draw the detail things around the route...the trees, shops, stalls, carpark...what ever that he can remember...this is very good brain exercise to sharpen his visual memory. colour it in if your child like to colour things esp the girls! 

i ask haris and aisyah to draw the way to the park... his own way...where should we turn, what can we see along the way, what should we pass and what should we do.

the kids was soo excited...we manage to go to the park using haris map ( i really rely on his map) and his directions...''haris, where should we turn first?'' ''now, should we see this banana trees a long the way?'' '' should we go straight or turn left?''..and we do some park cleaning ( put the rubbish away) before we play... we stop by at all the things he put in the map...and me sing the marching song!

this activity can help boosting your child self esteem...they feel confidence and feel useful in helping others...

ps; no picture..which is very sad...i really need to have my phone back..insyaAllah...wont be long..Allah always have his plan right!

have a go mom..it's fun!

What is a sight reading?

As promise..( ages ago!) i want to share my view about sight reading...

what is a sight reading?

have you ever heard term sight reading?...normally sight reading is use in music note reading...but in this case...using the sight reading method to read book or written words.

sight reading is a very fast learning how to read...the kids doesn't need to know how to spell...they just memorize the whole words..

but its not a short course of learning...but it's stress free and enjoyable for kids...

parent actually ask me...''if my kids just memorize the whole words...what happen if they see a new word...will they be able to read those words?

this is when i said long course of learning come to use...

in order to explain about sight reading...i will need to talk about my second daughter Aisyah Summayah...

Aisyah is my success product of early reading using sight reading method...

i started to introduce her with sight reading method at the age of 1 yrs 3 months using Your Baby Can Reads by Dr titzer...i just use the VCD ...finish the whole course...she can sight read most of the words...but unfortunately..i'm not be able to continue with her reading journey as i got pregnant of Faris.....

without a proper class and monitoring..i just let her watch  Your Child Can Read credit to Dr Azizah Ugusman for letting me know about Dr titzer new product in market!.One whole year passed and then i continue her classes...then..i started her with Peter and Jane book at age of 2 yr and 10 months...and to my surprise, she can read the book with a very limited assistent! i'm soooo impressed!

after using 3 books...ive change it to somehow similar type of books but less in total number for complete set...means its cheaper and faster for kids to progress..kohwai and Young... until now..Aisyah is in book 8..reading stage two at age of 3 yrs 9 months...

why did i take soo long from 2yrs 10 months till now and i only manage to finish book 8...to be frank...since i notice aisyah can read the first book...i ask her to read other different book...to avoid her becoming bored and my classes is very relax and simple...we have more holidays..and not to forget...she also is learning math, art and craft, Quran reading and also writing....but to be see in proper time ...she actually finish 1 book within 1 weeks... if she is in a good mood...she will finish 3-4 pages in less then 10 minutes...but if she dont want to do it...we keep the book for weeks without even touching it!

so..can she read new words that she see....the answer is YES!

how?

after mastering her sight words ( from the VCD and books) she actually figure it out herself the phonics sounds and blending!....it might take her longer time to understad the concepts...because i dont teach her....but one she got it...she is reading!...and i dont have to teach her as much as i teach Haris and she dont even know she is learning to read..if she saw a new words, she just read it...sound impossible...but this is soo true...

Aisyah reading

this is a new page...she is reading it for the first time and i dont have to teach her...

okay...since i already talk about phonics and sight reading...which one is the best?

the answer..

it's depends on the child and your patience.. hah!...i will talk about it next entry...

which one to choose...phonics or sight reading?

good luck moms!

ps: all pictures are from google

How to teach phonics?

There are alot of different ways to teach phonics to small children....you can use book available in malaysia like bacalah anakku or cepat baca by ameem, or maybe you can use internet like the one that i use to teach haris...

The only thing that parent need to know is when you choose a system..you have to stick to that system till the end...for example you choose internet...you have to finish the whole course step by step not just half way then you change to book...that is not going to work...it will make the children confuse and need to retune his or her way to learn..

What did i use to teach haris?

STARFALLS

When haris get the idea of his phonics sound, i use starfall system to teach him to read...and when haris finish the whole course...i make my own story with himself in it to make him see why he need to read...for starter!...he need to learn to read because he can read about his story!...he was soooo excited!...i make around 30 or so short story for him...everything about his favorite is in there...from his blue bike to his ipod...every single things!... and from there i started to buy book cepat baca by ameem just to see how the book work i skip book one because haris already know to ho read, i just book two as his reading practice...i also bought some other book that he choose....i spend around RM30 to RM50 a month for his book ....and now..at age of 6...he reads like adult...and he can read very fast!...1 Gemonimo Stilton book less in an hour including tea time and playing games!...i dont really know how long it took for him to finish that book in actual time..but i can tell you...he is a very fast reader esp for his age...to give some view...he can read subtitle in any tv story faster then me!

For parent who want ot teach their kids phonics at home..i suggest that you make yourself understand the system first. Just take your time to know the phonics sounds and the blending method. It is very easy for us adult to master that...all you need is effort and lappy with internet connection... i learn ''learn to read from starfall myself before i teach haris...so..im sure all moms out there can do the same!

How long did i take to teaching haris a day?

10 min to the least and 30 min to the max!.. with i can tell you..i normally manage to teach haris around 15 min a day around 4 times a week with aisyah around...that time aisyah was only 8 months old!

Why did i choose cepat baca compere to bacalah anakku?

solely because of the number of book.... kids don't really fancy a long course of anything!.. cepat baca by ameem just have 2 books...finish that 2 book...it's done! like when i teach haris reading in Malay....finish the 2 books...and he can read his first malay book from MPH...

that's all mom...next entry...what is sight reading?

ps: i subscribe with starfall... more starfall...its worth every penny!...

Should i teach my baby ABC?

A lot of mommies ask me about this question...''should i teach my baby ABC?'' as i manage to make my child read at a very young age...so a lot of them think that i been teaching my kids ABC( alphabet) since baby....

To answer this question i need to talk about Haris...i did teach him alphabet without knowing about phonics...he knows his alphabet at age 1yr 6 months..then i just let him explore book without knowing what to do to make my baby can read...pity him!..when i was about to come back to Malaysia...he was about 2 yrs 8 months...i found aout about phonics...since then i taught myself about what is phonics and how does it work! ( just tru the net)...when we arrived in Malaysia....he was around 3 yrs 1 month...i started to teach him phonics...and it was such a hard work as haris already register the alphabet name but not the phonics sound!...

From that experience...i noticed that...you dont have to teach your kids alphabet name...because it will not help him to read...the most important step to teach your child with is alphabet sound...the phonics sound!...

It take me almost 1 months to really make haris master all 28 phonics sound and another 2 months of teaching..he manage to read his first ever story from the net...ZAC THE RAT at age of 3 yrs 3 going to 4 months old!.. and i cry! i feel so happy...i just cry!

so moms...this is my answer....you dont have or maybe i should say...should not teach your child english alphabet letter name....but teach them english alphabet phonics sound to make it easy for them to learn how to read...

here is haris fav phonics song from youtube video.  This  can help you introduce phonics sound to your kids 

PHONICS SONG 1

next entry... how to teach phonics at home..

ps: picture are from google ;-)

Good luck moms!

My child is being shy...

Shy...timid.. scared..is a signal of low self-esteem...

My kids are too timid...he dont really feel like answering question from the teacher...he dont want to go and ask thing from the shop counter...he dont even say anything he really want from others...im worry that he will be bullied at school...

These are some of the comment some parent have when they talk about their children...

Alhamdullillah..MasyaAllah...my kids haris and Aisyah did not have any problem with being too shy...normally if somebody just meet them...they will ask me...''where did you sent your kid to school...?'' ''is your kid gone to international school?'' '' your kids are very confident!'' masyaAllah... and they will be very suprise if i told them they were homeschool...one myths busted!...homeschool children DO actually know how to socialize..!

back to the topics...what did i do to make my child confident...out spoken and not timid...

my way might be different..but it work for me!

1. I alway say good boy/girl for their achievement and effort! he might try to switch on the light...but he cant reach it...i never said '' you are too short!..that why you cant reach it''...instead i say '' well done abg haris...you have try your best, i can see it, but i think maybe i need to help you a bit...well done for not giving up!'' it sound long and very difficult to do...but if you try and do it...it's not that hard...


2. Avoid the negative words like..being weak, too small, not clever or stupid, lazy, notty...please parent...sometime we just too angry and the words just come out...try to istifar or change the angry word to something else...just say anything infront of you...spoon, table, chair...what ever...and if you do this...you will find yourself laughing and help the kids not to feel scared!

3. I will always make my child to do things infront of others...like..when i went to the supermarket...i will ask my kids to put the stuff at the counter and give the money to then so that they will do the paying..i will teach them how to say it...like Aisyah...i will give her 50 ringgit and ask her to say '' excuse me, this is the money, thanks!'' she will be very happy when the lady at the counter smile and take the money...she knows that she is doing something right and make somebody happy! try this moms...you will be happy to see the result!

4. let your child say things that he do not fancy when other do esp telling it to you! sometimes when other tease haris as not being able to speak malay very well last time...i saw him being a lil upset...i go to him and ask him to tell he everything that make him frown... then i teach him to say and stick out his feelings esp for those who teasing...'' sorry, i dont really fancy with what you said, it hurt my feelings and i think i want to do something else instead''  for some it might be rude esp for the elderly...but this will help them not feeling bullied and for some reason...people not teasing my kids anymore...they just being nice or if they ignore them, they can survive in different things because they were happy and confident!

5. Dont make your child rely on others...i always say that you have Allah and only Allah will give and help..so the kids did not actually being scared to other people or hopping that other people will need to help them...they know they can do it because Allah is with them, if they dont get it now they will get it in jannah...

6. never..never ever watch scary story or movie infront of them. this will make their brain have a limitation, there is something that they need to scared of and its all around you...they dont understand that story and their perceptions is extremely different from us the adult!

7. Never compere...even with their own siblings...please...its very easy to slip this...but the impact to the little heart a enormous! they will feel weak and always left behind from the person you have been compering! even with your friends...on the phone, with other family member, please not infront of the kids!

ok i think this is enough moms... i need to continue with the kids school...insyaAllah i will update about kids activity in next post.

All picture are from google ;-)

Still breathing!

Assalamualaikum Mommies!...

Yap!..this blog is still alife...just undergone a long...i mean...looooooog winter hibernation!...now its Spring time in my blog world...so...welcome again....hohohohoh

Since im sooo busy doing early Education and homeschooling for my beloved kiddos!...im going to use this blog as a new platform for my early education and school activities!

InsyaAllah...starting from today...all the updates about the school and other tips about early education will be in this blog...and normalmuslimmum.blogspot.com is just for my rambling post and the holidays of course!

I will try my best to have at least 1 entry per week with tips and activities  for early education and homeschooling!

and if any of my lovely mommies have some topics or ideas that need to be discuss...you are most welcome to email me or just drop a comment...insyaAllah...this superbusy mama will try to attent you all as soooon as possible!!!

next entry..my child is shy...toooo shy!

ps; for those who want to see my previos entry about the kid school...you can click MYSCHOOL

Play and learn...

oh hoooo...it 's been ages ago since the last post..sorry guys...this mom need some re-wiring inside her brain first...too much things to do...

ok..as promise ( ages ago) i will make a post about Hot House....

what is a Hot House...i've got this new term when i saw this nice documentary about how to make our house as learning playground and produce a brainy baby and children....

From what i saw...they said that every little thing u do is a potential learning tools for the babies...

cut the long crap..let me make it into points:

• Talking
• Reading
• Show Things

Talking

Talk more...yeah...ladies...i know we been born with this ''gift''...we just love to talk aka nags ...:P

but unfortunately...we choose to use our gift to nags and nags..and nags some more...

the talk that we actually need is...TALKING to BABIES...as explaining things to them all the things that we actually do.....even tho the babies only know how to smile or cry...just talk to them...and try to make this as a habits...:)

talking to babies or children..not only help to improve their ability to connects things..it also help to make the talk and boost their confident and make their brain more active...:)
i remember the things i do to my kiddos...everything that i touch..i do...i look ...i will tell them and explain...''this is onion...we need to peel the onion before we cook...'' i'm cleaning your bottom''...'' i'm washing the dishes''..and so on...i will always try to make my children be around me and make them see what i'm doing... :)

if you are watching television.. ( me..i don't have tv..i personally think tv has more bad points then goods..) but i do this things in our relative house coz they got tv...i will explain the things in tv and if the things is not good ( fighting, saying bad words, ect...) i will immediately told them that is not good...we muslim/ we brothers and sisters don't do like that...before they even register that bad thins in their head...:)
Reading
Read...read and read...anything u have on your hand..u should read it to them...newspaper...read it loud...as long as ur baby is awake...just read...u will not see the result now..but it won't be long when they will tell you all the things that u have said...and u will be surprise with ur children general knowledge...u will..coz i do...as my son..started to say things from his encyclopedia...and i just listen with amazement.. ( in my head..i don't remember telling him about this..actually i did..when he was a baby..)...masyaAllah....

Show things

things to be show...ok...Book...make your house a ''library''...please invest more in books..coz u will never regret it...if you can..everywhere the eye could see...they see books...big..small..colorful books...this will make them feel like books is part of their life...they have to see them...if not..not ''normal''...if get what i mean here...:P

then...flash cards...oh my..oh my...this is very good...numbers...alphabets...just make them see...and make it as a routine...like..before we eat session...just give a quick glance to numbers....then...after the bath...moms...u have to be creative in finding times...you don't have to do 24 hours...just 10 to 15 minutes a day...( the more the better)...but if you are working...time is a diamonds ( gold is cheaper)..:P
you don't have to buy fancy2 flashcard...make ur self...all u need is..paper..pen and scissors..like me..i just make the power points in my lappy..and tadaaaa.....ready...just click and click..:P ( modern technology for modern moms)

and..moms..please make some effort on finding things in the internet...the alphabet game...numbers...arabic alphabet....it's easy..
you can find it in youtube...in the net..just type online free toddlers/infant game...tadaaa...the list is incredibly long..:P

i will give some that u can try...see if u like it or not...

http://www.starfall.com/

http://www.fisher-price.com/fp.aspx?st=10&e=gamesLanding&mcat=game_infant,game_toddler,game_preschool&site=us

http://www.literacycenter.net/lessonview_en.php

http://www.uptoten.com/kids/kidsgames-home.html

and you can always add more to the list...but the internet is useless if your finger did not press the keyboard..:P

last but not least ...here is a very nice article about 10 Easy Early Learning Activities for Babies and Toddlers

http://ezinearticles.com/?10-Easy-Early-Learning-Activities-for-Babies-and-Toddlers&id=650926

hope that this post helps..and please share more info in this post via ur comments..:)

till then...We can be the teacher and our house can be the school...:)

Potty Trainning!...Say good bye to Nappy forever!

Ok...actually..all the suggested topic will have their turn in the next post...as we got 2 vote ( only 2 :P ) for potty train...i will make this topic as the first entry.

As for myself..i managed to potty train my older son at 3 yrs 2 months old....i do it in 3 days...and manage to be Nappy free day and night.. :P..well i think that's fairly good achievement :) Alhamdullillah...

let see mom...why we want to potty train them : ( moms....u can skip this if u already had ur reason..:P)

• Save up to RM100+/month by not having to buy expensive diapers ( the main reason lah for me as i've another fellow who really need a nappy)
• Run your errands and not have to carry a heavy diaper bag
• Help your child build their confidence
• Get your child ready for daycare, camp or kindergarten
• Send your child on a sleepover and don't get embarrassed by accidents ( yar lah..esp in MIL house :P)
• Be able to use a public restroom and not look for a changing table
• Never feel embarrassed from the stench of a garbage can full of stinky diapers in your house again
• Say good bye to diapers forever...oh yeahhhhhhhhhh...

SO...done with the reason...

Now...when.... let see what does expert told us : ( this is quite important yeah..)

they said that..the age ranging between 18 to 3 yrs old is the best time to potty our children...but for me...''bila mama rajin and bila mama ready..baru pandang pada anak...ready?'' hahaha

• Does your child seem interested in the potty chair or toilet, or in wearing underwear?

• Can your child understand and follow basic directions?

• Can your child ask simple questions?

• Does your child stay dry for periods of two hours or longer during the day? Does he or she wake from naps dry? ( this one lah kan...feeling very sad and rugi lah bila u take off the nappy..it's dry....and yet u have to chuck it coz rasa geli nak sarung balik..:( )

• Does your child have fairly predictable bowel movements?

• Does your child tell you through words, facial expressions or posture when he or she needs to go?

• Is your child uncomfortable in wet or dirty diapers?

• Can your child pull down his or her pants and pull them up again?

ok..if u can see here..basically if we want to potty ur toddlers... they have to at least understand a simple command...and i think this is the reason most of us choose to potty our beloved ones after 2 yrs old....actually...the older..the easier...but the earlier is better.. :).. so..moms...it's up to u all...do you want it to be easy or cost effective... :P

and the most important part...HOW.. :P

i want to share my experience first..

i personally think to potty train a baby is much more easier in Malaysia..coz we have a ''wet toilet''.. we can ask them to pee on the floor near the drainage hole.. and becoz of that..all those fancy2 small potty is fairly useless.. :P..

i started of by using a pull up pants easy to ''do and undo''..and a ask my boy every 15 minutes in day 1, 30 minutes in day 2 and 2 hours in day 3...by day 4..he told me him self when he want to pee or poop :)

for the night routine...before he went to sleep..he must wee...then at 3 i wake him for his night wee and as he wake up in the morning..another wee... u see...every time i wake him up at 3...it seems to bother him soo much..that he decided not to wee at all in the following night ( day 4)...

so..as a result..i manage to potty him in 3-4 days day n night...since then..no more nappy :)

and now..lets see what does the expert suggest :)

• Pull out the equipment. Place a potty chair in the bathroom. You may want to try a model with a removable top that can be placed directly on the toilet when your child is ready. Encourage your child to sit on the potty chair — with or without a diaper. Make sure your child's feet rest firmly on the floor or a stool. Help your child understand how to talk about the bathroom using simple, correct terms. You might dump the contents of a dirty diaper into the potty chair to show its purpose, or let your child see family members of his or her sex using the toilet. ( ok...i did used this fancy2 thing in uk last time...it took me 1 weeks before i give up...why?..my house the is fully carpets...and when accident happen...i'll be screaming like mad...and a big tummy ( not fat but fetus)...emotionally unstable..)

• Schedule potty breaks. If your child is interested, have him or her sit on the potty chair or toilet without a diaper for a few minutes several times a day. For boys, it's often best to master urination sitting down, and then move to standing up after bowel training is complete. Read a potty-training book or give your child a special toy to use while sitting on the potty chair or toilet. Stay with your child when he or she is in the bathroom. Even if your child simply sits there, offer praise for trying — and remind your child that he or she can try again later. ( my toilet there is a disaster...ok..forget it!)

• Get there — fast! When you notice signs that your child may need to use the toilet — such as squirming, squatting or holding the genital area — respond quickly. Help your child become familiar with these signals, stop what he or she is doing and head to the toilet. Praise your child for telling you when he or she has to go. Teach girls to wipe carefully from front to back to prevent bringing germs from the rectum to the vagina or bladder. When it's time to flush, let your child do the honors. Make sure your child washes his or her hands after using the toilet. ( moms..if u want to potty train...u have to master this skill...peka, cepat dan tepat :P)

• Consider incentives. Some kids respond to stickers or stars on a chart. For others, trips to the park or extra bedtime stories are effective. Experiment to find what works best for your child. Reinforce your child's effort with verbal praise, such as, "How exciting! You're learning to use the toilet just like big kids do!" Be positive even if a trip to the toilet isn't successful.( this is very useful lah... but for me...my boy don't fancy stickers as rewards..he want lolly's )

• Be consistent. Make sure all of your child's caregivers — including baby sitters, child care providers and grandparents — follow your potty-training routine. ( it's a MUST...jgn sat buat..sat tak...nanti tak jalan)

• Ditch the diapers. After several weeks of successful potty breaks, your child may be ready to trade diapers for training pants or regular underwear. Celebrate this transition. Go on a special "big kid" outing. Call close friends or loved ones and let your child spread the news. Once your child is wearing training pants or regular underwear, avoid overalls, belts, leotards or other items that could hinder quick undressing. ( me...my boy is happy when other people praise him...''wah haris very cleaver...no more nappy..big boy...)

• Treat mistakes lightly. Accidents are inevitable — especially when your child is tired or upset. When it happens, stay calm. Simply say, "Uh-oh. There was an accident. Let's change you. Pretty soon you'll remember to use the potty chair every time you have to go."( me..this one...memang fail la...marah aje...but for that 3 days ..memang tak marah...so dia tak stress...happy...potty trian berjaya :) )

• Sleep soundly. Most children master daytime bladder control within six months of starting potty training. Nighttime control may take months — or years — longer. In the meantime, use disposable training pants or plastic mattress covers when your child sleeps.

• Know when to call it quits. If your child resists using the potty chair or toilet or isn't getting the hang of it, take a break. Chances are he or she isn't ready yet. Try it again in a few months. ( yap..u need to know when to start...and please moms..don't give up...just re try in the next few months :))

ok moms...i think i've done my best for this important topic..:).. now i want to hear about other people success in potty training their toddlers... may be new ways and ideas... :)

GOOD LUCK moms :) hope this post helps :)

PS: moms..u can print the potty chart or you can just go to ( http://www.childavenue.com/pages/family_corner_pages/printables.html ) to dl and print :) )